Easy! 5 Steps to Happiness | Melissa A. Wiringi

Easy! 5 Steps to Happiness

By melissawiringi | Human Potential

May 20

Easy - 5 Steps to Happiness


One of my favourite quotes on happiness is:

“The very purpose of life is to seek happiness”. - His Holiness, the Dalai Lama.

It has stuck with me over nine years.

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    Have you ever felt like you’re simply going through the motions?
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    Do you feel like you depend on people, things or status to make yourself feeling happy?
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    Do you feel like there is something missing?

When I left drug-fuelled violence, I didn't know who I was. I was 24 years old, and I didn't know what it was to be truly and deeply happy. I felt like there had to be more to life, I couldn't continue on mildly depressed, and I no longer had the financial resources to buy myself stuff to make myself happy.

Because I was at rock bottom, I was forced to seek happiness, or face being bitter and miserable for ever after. This why I'm grateful for my negative experiences, I was led me on a fulfilling lifelong journey of personal development.

When I decided I wanted to become happy, I went to the local library and discovered the book, The Art of Happiness, by the Dalai Lama and Dr Howard Cutler. +

This book helped me to reframe my life. It was a first step in transforming my mindset, and it taught me so much more than happiness.

I discovered there are always many ways of looking at things, and it pushed me to seek other perspectives.

I moved from being someone who was naturally on the edge of depression, to someone grateful to live my life. I cultivated new practices which transformed my life in so many different ways. I found a spark, one that has been growing ever since.

If you’ve lost yourself in the world of living zombies, don’t despair, happiness is available for everyone, it is a choice we make. And if it’s something you’re not that familiar with (I didn’t know anything about happiness once), we can learn to reprogram our minds to cultivate happiness.

Here are five tips to help you move to your happy space:

  1. Find what brings you to life and do  that, every day.
  2. Write down your gratitude every evening - at least three things.
  3. Be mindful - practise meditation, yoga, mindful walking, whatever brings you peace and helps you to reconnect with your humanness.
  4. Affirmations, repeat with emotion to penetrate your subconscious and begin to transform your life!!
  5. Make a list of all your dreams - aim for a list of 101 lifelong goals!! You’ve got your entire life to live, you may as well aim big and bright to live your greatest life.

I’m writing about this and more in my upcoming book, Start with I.

I’d love to hear your thoughts, what have you discovered on your journey toward happiness? 

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